{"id":8146,"date":"2016-06-04T23:50:21","date_gmt":"2016-06-05T03:50:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/?p=8146"},"modified":"2019-05-15T13:50:33","modified_gmt":"2019-05-15T17:50:33","slug":"this-is-a-date-right","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/?p=8146","title":{"rendered":"This is a DATE, right?"},"content":{"rendered":"

We had\u00a0already gone out twice. <\/span><\/p>\n

We met for drinks at 7\u00a0in our neighborhood bar. The first time I looked at my watch, it was midnight. What a novelty, to\u00a0spend that much time just talking with a\u00a0man and not\u00a0feel even\u00a0a little bit bored.<\/span><\/p>\n

The next week, we had lunch at the neighborhood Mexican restaurant, and went for a walk. Same thing: talking, for hours, not bored.<\/span><\/p>\n

We had both recently ended\u00a0toxic relationships. These\u00a0first two get-togethers ended with hugs, nothing more.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was getting a little worried that maybe he just wanted to be friends. <\/span><\/p>\n

We were emailing each other, and decided to make\u00a0dinner on Saturday night at my house. I’d made sure my roommate was not going to be around. But I didn’t want to presume and be wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

So I wrote, “This is a DATE, right?”<\/span><\/p>\n

It was.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tom and I still use that line on each other.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

After 15 years, a DATE\u00a0isn’t exactly the way you think of your time together. But since we have to live apart during the week, the weekends feel a lot more celebratory.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tonight we went out for dinner. I wore makeup and some snug black pants that he calls my hot pants. <\/span><\/p>\n

He held the door for me.\u00a0We had fancy cocktails and tasted each other’s drinks. We shared an appetizer and conferred on main courses and swapped bites. <\/span><\/p>\n

We lingered over conversation. We laughed a lot. We talked about big sweeping topics – the way our\u00a0mental lives have changed since\u00a0childhood, and the way our thoughts keep changing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Towards the end of dinner, a song by Vance Joy came on, “Fire and The Flood.” I listened\u00a0as he sang\u00a0it. He said it was about me. <\/span><\/p>\n

\n

Everything is fine
\nWhen your head is resting next to mine<\/p>\n

\u00a0Late at night, when you can’t fall asleep, I’ll be lying right beside you counting sheep<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

We were among the last ones out of the restaurant.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This was a DATE. <\/span><\/p>\n

And he still doesn’t bore me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Today’s penny is a 2000, the year we had our first date.<\/span><\/p>\n

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We had\u00a0already gone out twice. We met for drinks at 7\u00a0in our neighborhood bar. The first time I looked at my watch, it was midnight. What a novelty, to\u00a0spend that much time just talking with a\u00a0man and not\u00a0feel even\u00a0a little bit bored. The next week, we had lunch at the neighborhood Mexican restaurant, and went … read more This is a DATE, right?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":8151,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[318],"tags":[84,984,986,985,20],"class_list":["post-8146","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-refraction","tag-84","tag-date","tag-dinner","tag-romance","tag-tom"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8146","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8146"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8146\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8162,"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8146\/revisions\/8162"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/8151"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8146"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8146"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lisaschnellinger.com\/pennies\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8146"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}